I was talking to a friend last night who is going through a lot of changes right now. What I found so interesting is from the bird’s eye view everything is lining up for this person exactly the way it needs to – to lead them to their heart’s desire. But because they are in the mist of it, it’s hard to see how everything is lining up to support them.
I share this short story to ask you where in your life where something might not seem to be going very well, but is actually nudging you into the direction of your dreams. The one theme that seems to be consistent with all my clients is that they (self included) seem to argue for their limitations or why things won’t work. Then it’s my job to lovingly and persistently walk them through their own resistance to see the light on the other side.
What if we were to give up the resistance and instead ask ourselves what is the gift in the situation instead of complaining about it. I truly believe there is a silver lining in all situations. If nothing else, it helps you to clarify what you don’t want and discover what you do want instead. If you will only take a few moments to look at it that way.
So the next time you are in a less than desirable situation, what if you were to say, that’s interesting what gifts does this situation have to share? Much more powerful words and enables you to move through the situation with ease and much more quickly. You might learn things about yourself that you have not been able to see before.
A couple of years ago I had a friend who I would have a tendency to make jabbing remarks too. They did not deserve that regardless of what they did or didn’t do, and one day they pointed that out to me. I resisted hearing it, but as always, I went home and contemplated what they said. It was a bitter pill to swallow, but it was true what they said and that it was a learned behavior. What came out of that was a hard look at myself and adjustments in my own thoughts about myself and others. Whatever we picked up as children from repetition can be changed. We are not hard wired! In my practice, I used something called Psych-K to help my clients rewrite undesirable programs that were installed when they were young and are running on automatic. I will write about Psych-K in my November newsletter.
Today I look for the good and gifts that people have to offer and share only those positive aspects. An interesting thing happens when I do that. They get better all on their own without me pointing out or even noticing anything negative.
I hope this idea sparks a cord with you and gives you a new way to look at old situations.
With Love and Light,
Remember, You are the Source. You Decide! ©