Awaken

Awaken MP3 

To whom it may concern,

It truly is a time of awakening. The truth in everyday life is being revealed a piece at a time. The time of being naive is coming to an end. We are allowing ourselves to see beyond the veil that we’ve been duped into believing. We are becoming ready, able and willing to take full responsibility for all that we’ve done and all that we’ve allowed to be done. No more we say.

No more lies, deception or switch-and-bait. Awaken!

Awaken to who you truly are. Who you are becoming. And who you will become.

We want to know the truth at all levels. The greatness that has lied dormant within us all, waiting for this time of awakening.

At first it disheartening, or even hurtful and painful to see where we have allowed ourselves to be lead awry. No more. We swollen our pride, wipe our tears, and stand up to take action. To make right the wrongs. To vow to be more aware. To discern for ourselves what is right.

No more blaming. No more victims. Only choosing what’s right for us and all those concerned.

I am my brothers keeper. By my awakening, I allow others to awaken. I create a path of my own as an example for others to create their path. Not to follow mine, but to find their own path that is right for them. To lift them up when it is needed. To support them. To Love them as they learn. As we each learn to decide for ourselves. To freely choose as our sovereign right over our own lives.

And so it is, and I let it be.

Awaken!

Coaching by Jini © 2013

Living in Grace

Living in Grace from Honolulu, Hawaii April 22, 2013

Living in Grace MP3 

Aloha! And welcome back to Coaching by Jini.
This conference call was recorded in Honolulu, Hawaii April 22nd, 2013 with my very dear friend Mary Beth Shewan. Who is a Master Certified Coach. You can find out more about Mary Beth and her services at WholeLifeCoaching.com. Mary Beth is a transformational coach and very exceptional at what she does. She helps people build Bridges to Brilliance!

This conference call is being transcribe, so visit again soon to look for the transcription of our conference call or listen now to the mp3 – Living in Grace.

I’ll be taking a break from the weekly conference calls and will make announcements about once a month. I am shifting my focus to putting together a workshop to create an experiential experience of what we’ve been talking about and to get back to that natural person that we were when we arrived this lifetime. A free open soul ready to experience life to it’s fullest before all the conditioning started, and to go forward from that new place.

Mahola
Jini

And remember, Your are the Source, Your Decide.


Copyright © 2013 Coaching by Jini

Self Trust

Welcome back and thank you for joining us tonight and taking time for yourself.

I am Jini as in Coaching by Jini and I will be your host tonight. It is my great pleasure and delight to be hosting these calls. I am excited to announce that about once a month we will have some very special guests on our conference calls. Next Monday, April 22nd we will be calling from Hawaii and I will have Mary Beth Shewan, a Master Certified Coach with us. You can find her online at WholeLifeCoaching.com. She is a transformational coach who helps people build Bridges to Brilliance. So, listen next week for more.

And just a reminder that these conference call will be available as mp3s on my website at CoachingbyJini.com

It is my intention that these calls will inspire, uplift and provide you with insights as to a way forward to more self love and self acceptance. Therefore providing us with more love and acceptance towards others. And to have a life full of more joy and flow.

The last couple of weeks we have been focused on different aspect of Self Love.
Last time I talked about Compromise, which you can find on my website. Tonight I would like to focus on Self Trust or the lack of it.

And as usual, I would like to take a few moment to get us focused in the present moment before we begin. Releasing the day’s issues, tensions and allowing this time for yourself.

So then let’s get comfortable and begin…

So the first thing I’d like to do is to get fully present in this moment. To let go of the day’s stresses and distractions. And to become fully present in this Now moment. I hope you have given yourself this time and have created a quiet space where you can relax and just be here fully present. If your driving or doing something else, please just keep your eyes open.
So look around the place where you are and look at some objects. A chair, a table, a lamp. If you’re by a window, see a tree or a bird. Just become aware of them without labeling them. Notice the silence there where they are. Touch something and become aware of who is feeling what you are touching. Take a deep breath and allow it to expand your stomach below your naval and as you exhale feel the tension leave your body and feel the support of whatever your sitting on. Continue to take slow deep breaths and become aware of your breath. Become aware of who is noticing your breath. Just relax and come into this present Now moment. Just continue to breath and become aware of right now.
Good.

Self Trust

Self trust is synonymous with self reliance.

The dictionary defines Trust as: reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

Self Reliance is: reliance on oneself or one’s own powers, resources, etc.

If we are creators, 100% responsible for our reality, then why do we worry, have fear and don’t trust ourselves and/or others? Why do we lack self trust and self reliance?

Could it be all the broken promises we’ve made? The ones where we proclaim we will do this or that and then didn’t? This includes the promises to ourselves as well as others.
Is it because we have become externally focused? Comparing ourselves to others.
Or because we have been taught in our families, churches and governments to rely on some external authority? And not trust ourselves. That some how others know what’s best for us.

Maybe it’s some of these or all of them.

One of my favorite statements is ‘In God We Trust!’ Really! Do we?

What if you didn’t keep your word. Was there a unspoken, underlying reason why you didn’t?
Let’s say you’re on a diet, but in a moment of weakness you had some sugar. Now you spend the rest of the day beating yourself up and making yourself wrong and have more sugar to comfort the bad feeling you now have. Now the viscous cycle continues.

Why did you want to lose weight in the first place? Because you thought you ‘should’. Because others makes you wrong for being overweight? Because you lack self love? Will-power alone will not help you lose weight and keep it off, not in the long run because you haven’t address the root cause.

What if you were late to work. What do you do? Find some outside cause? Like blaming traffic. Is it really because you overslept. Or didn’t allow enough time.

Apply this to anything where you didn’t keep your word. What was the root cause? The truth behind it?

What about the way we dress, the car we drive, the houses we live in. Are we consumed by external appearances that we’ve shut ourselves completely off to that internal knowingness. What if we didn’t have the latest whatever… what if we really liked working in the garden or painting, but oh, what would others think.

Or focusing our strengths to someone else’s weaknesses or vice versus. How exhausting to compare. And we never compare justly. We always set ourselves up to be better or worst. Comparing ourselves is so emotionally debilitating.

What about those things we do because we’ve been taught to do them. Go to school, get a good job, plan for the future, provide security for our families and never question what we are doing.

What if we’re walking around with victim mentalities and think we are at the mercy of outside forces.
Or is it mainly because we have forgotten who we really are or never knew and have identified with our roles we are playing.

Do you keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting it to be different this time. We seem to have that built in what I will call our egos. That some how if we repeat the mistake over and over again it will come out right. What if we keep repeating the same mistakes because it has something to teach us and when we can learn what it has to teach us, then we can let it go and move on.

What if we started telling ourselves the truth. Why we do or don’t do something.

The definition of Responsibility that I like best is the ability to respond.
But most the time we react or have a knee-jerk reaction to situations and people.

When you truly know who you really are, then you can have self trust.

Life becomes a endless flow of experiences that we can embrace. It doesn’t mean it is completely blissful. But when you know who you are, you are able to response to the moment as appose to reacting to it, it becomes this beautiful unfolding flow.

I use the word flow a lot. It’s the difference between swimming upstream with struggle and against the current or going down steam with current and the flow.
Aikido is a Japanese martial art “the Way of unifying (with) life energy”. Aikido is performed by blending with the motion of the attacker and redirecting the force of the attack rather than opposing it head-on. So the image might be, someone is coming straight towards you. You calmly step aside and allow the attacker to fall on his own face.

Why do I bring this up? I want to demonstrate what I mean by going with the flow.
We use a lot of our life force and life energy struggling against life, draining ourselves of vital energy.
What does this have to do with self trust? We all have an innate intelligence to draw from that guides us. When we learn to tap into it and use it, then we can respond to life from that place of Trust with ease and grace. Which enables us to let go of the struggle. Then we start to enjoy the unfolding of our life’s journey.

The fist step is always to come into this present now moment. Not living out of heads, out of some past memory that doesn’t even exist in the present moment.

What would it take to believe in ourselves? To use that innate intelligence we all have?

To breath and to come fully in this Now present moment.

Say someone says something hurtful to us, has anything really changed in the present moment? No. Our reaction to what someone says usually dictates how we react next. What if you stayed in the present moment. Really got into the present moment and without any judgment at all, watch the person saying what they are saying. You could even put funny ears on them. Would it change the impact of what they said? I think so. You would probably be trying to contain yourself from laughing out loud.

Just one little change in perspective changes the whole situation. It just takes a moment to respond to life rather than to react to life.

And not with a smug I better than you, because that’s not true either. We are all the same just expressing ourselves differently. Playing a different role for ourselves or someone else. Trying to manipulate the situation rather than respond.

In Real Love terms as taught by Greg Baer, we all use what he calls getting and protecting behaviors. We act a certain way in order to manipulate the other person or situation. He suggests what if you just make a request. They are a unique individual person who has the free will to choose for themselves just as we do. Maybe they don’t like your suggestion or request. Can you be okay when they decide they don’t want to go along?

And in their saying no, there might be a better situation arise out of it. But we don’t know if we are trying to force the situation.

Self trust is being in the present moment and making decision from your intuition or that small still voice inside. But definitely not in reaction to some stimulus outside of us.

As I said earlier, Self trust to me is synonymous with self reliance. Reliance on one’s own truth. Believing in ones self.

So my definition of self trust would be trusting one’s self that you will know how to respond to a situation when it arises in the present now moment. That you’ve developed your ability to listen and act on that still small voice within that we also call intuition.

I have over simplified this concept and idea just to plant the seed of thought. There are so many facets to this idea of Self Trust, but it’s something to ponder and think about.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this time and received some benefit from tonight’s call.
Thank you again for playing with me. I really enjoyed sharing and look forward to our call next week. Remember you can share this with anyone you think might be interested.
Thank you.

Remember, Your are the Source, Your Decide.

Copyright © 2013 Coaching by Jini

Compromise Conference Call

01-Apr Compromise Conf Call ©

Welcome back and thank you for joining us tonight and taking time for yourself.

I am Jini as in Coaching by Jini and I will be your host tonight. It is my great  pleasure and delight to be hosting these calls. I am excited to announce that about once a month we will have some very special guests on our conference calls. So watch your emails.

And just a reminder that these conference call will be available on my website at: http://www.CoachingbyJini.com

Tonight we will have a writing exercise, so if you would take a moment to get a pen and paper that would be great and then I will lead us in a breathing exercise to help us get present.

It is my intention that these calls will inspire, uplift and provide you with insights as to a way forward to more self love and self acceptance. Therefore providing us with more love and acceptance towards others. And to have a life full of more joy and flow.

Last week I shared a lot of information and received some very good feedback. One of the feedback I received last week was I shared to much information on one call.  So, as we go along we will revisit each of the jewels I shared last week, but tonight I would like to focus on Compromise.

I hope you have your pen and paper.Then let’s get comfortable and begin…

The first thing I’d like to do is to get fully present in this moment. To let go of the day’s stresses and distractions. And to become fully present in this Now moment. I hope you have given yourself this time and have created a quiet space where you can relax and just be here fully present. If your driving or doing something else, please just keep your eyes open.

So look around the place where you are and look at some objects. A chair, a table, a lamp. If you’re by a window, see a tree or a bird. Just become aware of them without labeling them. Notice the silence there where they are. Touch something and become aware of who is feeling what you are touching. Take a deep breath and allow it to expand your stomach below your naval and as you exhale feel the tension leave your body and feel the support of whatever your sitting on. Continue to take slow deep breaths. Become of aware of your breath. Become aware of who is noticing your breath. Just relax and come into this present Now moment. Just continue to breath and become aware of right now.
Good.

Compromise – what does it mean?
—noun
a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc.

an endangering, especially of reputation; exposure to danger, suspicion, etc.: a compromise of one’s integrity.

Those are not the type of compromises we will be talking about tonight.

There are usually two types of compromise
1. Those we make against ourselves
2. And those that were made against us.

I would venture to say that the first one is conditioned by the second one.
So what do I mean by against us?

When we were young, how many times were we told to eat what was on our plates even though we weren’t hungry or we didn’t want to eat something in particular?

Or when we were told to give Uncle Joe or Aunt Mary a hug when they gave us the creeps and we didn’t want to.

Our parent, teacher, preacher and so on, were probably acting in an benevolent way, not knowing how insidious these actions would become over time.

Now lets fast forward to today…where in our life are we still compromising ourselves, thinking this is normal and this what people do. And then wonder why we are not as happy, joyful and in love with ourselves or our life as we could be.

Let me make a distinction here. We are not talking about a conscious compromise as in the dictionary definition where you agree to do something you prefer not to for the betterment of the group. That is an agreement you chose to do consciously for limited amount of time.

We are talking about ongoing compromise. Like staying in a relationship out of quilt, or a job you hate.

So what I would like you to do is to get that pen and paper and for the next few minutes I would like you to start writing down everywhere in your life where you compromised yourself. In the past as well as in the present. The more you write down the better you will start feeling in the near future.

Oh, let me also add, and this is very important… no Judgment. No labeling who was right and wrong. Good or Bad. This is an awareness exercise. To possibly see where in your past conditioning is it still affecting your present.

I will give you some examples to help jog your memory.
So where in your past did you compromise yourself because you didn’t think you had a choice. Like the example of eating all of your food even though you didn’t want to.

–  Or hug that Uncle Joe or Aunt Mary when it didn’t feel right
–  What about those compromises we made out of ignorance
–  How about when you didn’t say something and speak up, yet you knew you should have
–  or similarly when you did nothing when you feel you should have
–  where in your life did you compromise yourself out of fear. Maybe fear of loosing
–  your job even though you had another commitment to keep
–  are you working in a job you hate, but feel you have to to provide for your family
–  or staying in that bad relationship even though you know it’s not right for you but you fear being alone
–  what about you knew you should go exercise, but you did something else instead
–  or went and got junk food because you were in a hurry

So what did you get from that?

I would like for the next few days to continue to write down places in our life where we saw that we may have compromised ourselves.

And in addition to that, write down, what is it costing you? Your health? Your relationship? Your well-being? We might start seeing patterns.

Dr. Coldwell, author of The Only Answer to Cancer says, Continuous and prolonged compromise is said to be linked to stress, which leads to a lack of energy, which leads to a lack of oxygen and acidosis which eventually leads to illness and cancer.

Change comes with awareness. So the first step is to bring conscious awareness to how and what we do in our daily life.

So the benefit of doing this exercise is to see where in our life we make compromises against ourselves and think about what can we can start to do to chose differently. How can we improve or make different choices that are more in alignment with what we know to be right for us.

As I talk about last week, we each have an innate intelligence to know what is right for us. No one else can tell us what we need to do. So stop asking your friends what they think. Think and feel into the answer yourself. Take time to Stop, breath and reflect. The answer will come. Or has it and you are second guessing yourself – Stop, breath and reflect. Learn to trust yourself.

Now to balance this out. I would like us to write down what we like about ourselves.

–  What hobbies do we have that we enjoy.  Which has nothing to do with how well we do it or not, but that we enjoy it.
–  An area of our life that we excel at.
–  A physical attribute we like
–  A special skill we have
–  That we can make someone smile and so on

Remember not to judge or compare yourself to anyone else. This is only about you.
Continue to do this and write down things as they pop into your head.

You are very unique individual. There’s no one else like you, so why not be the best you – you can be.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this time and received some benefit from tonight’s call.

Thank you again for play with me. I really enjoyed sharing and look forward to our call next week. Remember you can share this with anyone you think might be interested.

And remember, Your are the Source, Your Decide.


Copyright © 2013 Coaching by Jini

Self Love / Self Acceptance Conference Call

25-Mar Self Love Conf Call ©

(Transcript of Conference call made on 25-Mar-13. All material is copyright)

Welcome and thank you for joining us tonight and taking time for yourself.

I am Jini as in Coaching by Jini and I will be your host tonight.
It is my great pleasure and delight to be hosting these calls. It is my intention that these calls will inspire, uplift and provide you with insights as to a way forward to more self love and self acceptance. Therefore providing us with more love and acceptance towards others. And to have a life full of more joy and flow.

I come by this teaching through my own journey. Growing up in a home where the daily word was critical and condescending. From a place of lack. A lack of love and a lack of kindness. These people we call parents, teacher, preacher, and so on, only taught what they knew. Which would imply to me that is what they were taught. I don’t believe they just wake up one day and decided, I am going to be critical of others so that I may feel better. It was years and years of conditioning. And so…here we are conditioned…playing out old tapes from years past that don’t even exist in this moment. In some cases, we are experts at recreating an environment that is just like the one we grew up in. Attracting those people and situations that cause us to keep having those same feelings over and over again. Sometimes we are just experts at doing it to ourselves with no help at all from the outside. Sometimes, like a virus we become that person that hurt us so long ago – wondering how did that happen?

Several years ago I read a book title Real Love – unconditional love and better relationships with others by Greg Baer. I wanted so much to understand and to get what he was teaching that I became a coach for Real Love and worked with groups in my own home. I was able to heal the relationship with that parent that was so critical. It was nothing less than a miracle. But here’s the catch. That parent did not change! Let me make it clear, that parent did not change – I did!!! So that parent started showing up differently for me. They were still unhappy and critical, but it no longer affected me.

If you make the changes inside of you, the world can not help but to show up differently for you on the outside.

It was through that experience that I realized I wanted to be a coach and a teacher of what I will call higher learning. I’ve spent the last several years studying under different teachers, coaches and doctors who had different methods to share, but I came to realize that I have my own unique gifts to offer. So here we are. On a new adventure together.

I have learned many different techniques and tools that can be very helpful. And I continue to learn and discover for myself what works for me and what doesn’t. Everyone is different. So what worked for me may not necessarily work for you. But through this process, it my intention to help you discover what is right for you and your path toward more self love and acceptance. Because everything starts with self.

So let’s begin….
I am going to share some jewels with you that hopefully will hold some meaning and provide some insights for you. I will then open up the line to questions. You will hit *6 on your phone and then I will be able to select you for a question. If you would rather not be live you are welcome to send me a email to CoachingbyJini@gmail.com and I can read your question.

Also, if all goes well, these calls are and will be recorded and posted on my website to re-listen to and share. My website is: CoachingbyJini.com

So the first thing I’d like to do is to get fully present in this moment. To let go of the day’s stresses and distractions. And to become fully present in this Now moment. I hope you have given yourself this time and have create a quiet space where you can relax and just be here. If your driving or doing something else, please just keep your eyes open.
So look around the place where you are and look at objects. Just become aware of them without labeling them. Notice the silence there where they are. Touch something and become aware of who is feeling what you are touching. Take a deep breath and allow it to expand your stomach below your naval and as you exhale feel the tension leave your body and feel the support of whatever your sitting on. Become of aware of your breath. Become aware of who is noticing your breath. Just relax and come into this present Now moment. Just continue to breath and become aware of right now.
Good.

So… the very first jewel I would like to share is: You can not not be okay. Let me repeat that. You can not not be okay. Who you are at your core – that awareness behind your breath – is okay no matter what is going on on the outside. You may think you are not okay. You may feel you are not okay. You may even act as if you are not okay. But the essence of who are can not not be okay. Ever. Some of you may not know what I mean by this. That’s okay. On some level you do and in time you will consciously understand what this means. I first heard this from Esther Hicks. I understood it intellectually, but it took some time to really embrace it. So don’t worry if you don’t get it right now.

The next jewel is:
How we are in the world is ALL made up! Yes, it is all made up. From the car we drive to the home we live in, to the job we have, to the relationships we are in or not in. It is all made up by us. It may have been influenced by our mother, father, teacher, preacher, society, etc. But it is all made up. All of it.
So why does it seem to be such a mess. There are probably as many answers to that as there are people. But we’re not going to go there. We are going to start with – What is! Because that is all we can deal with – is what is.

Which bring me to another jewel. When you don’t accept What is, then your resisting what is, rejecting what is, whining about what is – all you do is cause what is to continue to exist. Your attention to what is not in this current moment causes it to continue. The very thing that you do not want. I will explain this further in many ways as we go along.

When our mental idea of how this moment ‘should be’ is different then ‘what it is’ we cause our self to be stressed, filled with anxiety, sad, depressed, etc. We take pills to cope with it. We drink alcohol to numb it. Yet it’s in the pushing against ‘what is’ that causes the upset. And as we continue to push against ‘what is’ – that very pushing causes it to continue and there can not be change into what we do desire.

So the first step is to accept this present moment exactly the way it is and the way it is not and know that is prefect.

It’s in the contrast that we learn what we do want and what we don’t want. So from that perspective, it is helping more clearly define what we do want. So learning to allow this present moment to be what it is without judgment is where we start.

An expression I heard years ago at a church I attended was: What you resist – persist. In your attention to what you don’t want is the very thing that is causing it to continue.

So let’s put that in practical terms. If you are overweight, or not feeling as well as you would like and you are resisting what is so, then your attention on that very thing continues.

So how do we get from here to where we want to be. First accepting the situation ‘without judgment’ as it is. Okay, I am overweight and it is OK. Or I’m not feeling as healthy as I would like, but that’s okay. Those were choices you made in the past and we can not change those. But what you do next is critical. You start moving towards what you do want. You envision what you do want. You start feeling what you do want. In other words, if I had my life the way I wanted it, who would I be being, how would I feel if my life was the way I wanted. You start imaging and practicing what would that be like. And the more you can do that – that is what you start drawing into your life. You start making different choices (or even begin making choices) that will bring that idea into your experience.

It’s how you can take the brakes off from where you are now and where you want to go.

I’ll share something personal with you that had a huge impact on my life. When I was going through my divorce, I was whining, complaining and thinking what my husband was not. And one day out of the blue, it occurred to me that I was those things that I was complaining about. I was the jerk, I was the asshole. Ouch. OMG…. I was no angel in all of this. What was my part that contributed to this. It was a HUGE bitter horse pill to swallow. And it was very uncomfortable to be with that truth. But after that, I realized that my relationship with my husband could heal. I could begin to heal myself. I was accepting what was – and in the moment it freed me up to start moving forward.

The next jewel
I believe we all have an intelligence, a intuition, an innate ability to know what we need to do. What is right for us. We have been so condition to listen to the outside authorities on what is right for us, that we don’t even know there is the intelligence inside of us. Sometimes our families and friends try to tell us what they believe is right for us, but I strongly believe that only you know what is right for you. And sometimes it is very hard to listen to that innate intelligence because of the people around us. And if we do hear it – we justify it away only to say later, I knew that would happened.

So, What if we re-learned how to listen to that innate intelligence that we all have. We’d probably save ourselves a whole lot of grief. And from my own personal experience – it not always easy to follow-through with what I know to be right, but I have found that when I do there is a peace that follows. A feeling of being right where I need to be – just the way that it is and just the way it is not. And the most amazing things follow.

To live a life on purpose in the present moment causes life to open up. To feel an aliveness, a beauty, and a deep sense of calm, joy and flow in the here and now. Not needing it to be any different then what it is right now. Even if your digging a ditch, changing a messy diaper, or serving food at a restaurant. If you are fully present in the moment to what is – a whole new life opens up to you.

So these are the jewels that I have to share today. There is so much more, if not volumes of what I could say about each one, but for now these are brief ideas for you to start with. Over time I will expand on these and add new ones. But I feel this a good place to start. And started we are…


Copyright © 2013 Coaching by Jini

All There is – is Love!

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We are the Love we seek!

When you take away all the judgments, all the rights and wrongs, all the shoulds and shouldn’ts.
Underneath it all – is Love – Just Pure Love
That’s what we are – Pure Love.

A simple look. A simple feel. A simple touch. All there is – is Love.
We come into this world as pure Love.

But, somehow with all the noise of the world, layers and layers of right and wrong, shoulds and shouldn’ts are laid on us to the point that we create us and them – separation, loneliness, sadness, longing.

Since it’s done, there is no need to wonder why or how it became this way – let us turn our focus to how to get back to that pure Love that’s underneath it all.

We surrender the need to be right. We surrender being wrong. We are all okay. Just trying to interpret what we have experienced, searching ‘out there’ for something that is already within us. Love. We are the Love we seek. We are the answers we are looking for. We are the serenity and peace we seek.

We long, we strive, we push and shove, we fight, yell and scream – demanding that we get from ‘out there’ that which is quietly waiting within us to be seen. Love.

It’s always there. Always has been and will always be…quietly waiting to be noticed. And oh, when it is…what a sweet surrender. A big sigh of relief. A letting go. A relaxing the tension that has been held in the body for so long. Sweet surrender. Tears of relief, a coming home to one’s self, a quiet deep joy.

I’m not talking about being a doormat or a pushover. But a deep Love for oneself that is full of wisdom and strength, kindness and acceptance.

All this time it’s been right there….quietly waiting.

Take time to feel, let the tears come…feel the pain deeply and know that all is okay. And in this surrender, this quiet place Love will show itself. The right and wrongs melt away. There are only difference that we were taught, but underneath it all is the oneness of us all – Love!

May you have the most wonderful Love affair with yourself today!

Namaste. Jini

I’m Ok!

We cannot start to make change until we accept and realize (with all our faults) that we are okay just as we are.

When we are not okay with who we are right now, then we are resisting what is. And whenever you resist what is, it persist. So it turns into this quagmire. You want to change, but you can’t change because you’re not okay with what is. It turns into this endless loop.

Are you aware that when you are blaming, pointing the finger at someone else, there are three more pointing right back at you. Thus the quagmire. The issue is not out there! Let me repeat. The issue is not out there.

Let me remind you (again). Everything, and I mean everything you experience is a reflection of your own mind. But the good news is – it’s with the mind you had yesterday still running it’s program. So you change your program you change your experience. But now we are back to – I’m OK right here and right now. And what I am experiencing is what I created yesterday. I am not a victim any longer. Because all I need to do is quit resisting yesterday’s creation and decide something new.

Another trap is the right/wrong game. Nothing is right or wrong. You either enjoyed what you created or you don’t. It either brought you pleasure or pain/sorrow. Now there are reasons why programs are running in the background that may cause us to keep repeating the same experience. Have you ever left one job full of negative people just to arrive at a new one and in a short time notice they are negative too, if not worst? Was it the job or was it you bringing the old you to the new place?

Sometimes we’re so busy running that we don’t realize that we are recreating our lives every moment expecting that the new one will be different if we didn’t do anything different from before. Shew. That was a mouthful. Did you get that? In other words, if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll always have what you always had. But somehow we really think that this time it will be different. Silly us.